时尚双语:李开复致女儿的一封信(5)

要和你高中时代的朋友保持联系，但是不要用他们来取代大学的友谊，也不要把全部的时间都花在老朋友身上，因为那样你就会失去交新朋友的机会了。

Do keep your high school friends, and stay connected to them,butdo not use them as substitutes for college friendship, and donotspend too much time with them, because that would eat intoyourtime to make new friends.

你还要早点开始规划你的暑假——你想做什么？你想呆在哪儿？你想学点什么？你在大学里学习是否会让你有新的打算？我觉得你学习艺术设计的计划很不错，你应该想好你该去哪儿学习相应的课程。我们当然希望你回到北京，但是最终的决定是你的。

Start planning for your summers early – what would you like todo?Where would you like to live? What would you like to learn?Whathave you learned in college that might change your mind? Ithinkyour plan of studying fashion is good, and you should decidewhereyou want to be, and get into the right courses. We of coursehopeyou come back to Beijing, but you should go where you think isbestfor you.

不管是暑假计划，功课规划，抑或是选专业，管理时间，你都应该负责你的人生。过去不管是申请学校、设计课外活动或者选择最初的课程，我都从旁帮助了你不少。以后，我仍然会一直站你身旁，但是现在是你自己掌舵的时候了。我常常记起我生命中那些令人振奋的时刻——在幼儿园决定跳级，决定转到计算机科学专业，决定离开学术界选择，决定回中国，决定选择Google，乃至最近选择创办我的新公司。有能力进行选择意味着你会过上自己想要的生活。生命太短暂了，你不能过别人想要你过的生活。掌控自己的生命是很棒的感觉，试试吧，你会爱上它的！

Whether it is summer-planning, or coursework planning, orpickinga major, or managing your time, you should take control ofyourlife. In the past, I have helped you quite a bit, whether it isincollege application, designing your extracurricular activities,orpicking the initial coursework. I will always be there for you,butthe time has come for you to be in the driver’s seat – this isyourlife, and you need to be in control. I will always remrtheexhilarating feeling in my life – that I got to decide toskipkindergarten, that I got to decide to change to computersciencemajor, that I got to decide to leave academia for , that Igot todecide to go to China, that I got to decide to go to Google,andmost recently, that I got to decide to start my own business.Beingable to decide means you get to live the life that you wantto.Life is too short to live the life others do or others wantyou.Being in control feels great. Try it, and you’ll love it!

我告诉你妈妈我在写这封信，问她有什么想对你说的，她想了想，说“让她好好照顾自己”，很简单却饱含着真切的关心——这一向是你深爱的妈妈的特点。这短短的一句话，是她想提醒你很多事情，比如要记得自己按时吃药，好好睡觉，保持健康的饮食，适量运动，不舒服的时候要去看医生等等。中国有句古语，说“身体发肤，受之父母，不敢毁伤，孝之始也”。这句话的意思用比较新的方法诠释就是说：父母最爱的就是你，所以照顾好自己就是孝顺最好的方法。当你成为母亲的那天，你就会理解这些。在那天之前，听妈妈的，你一定要好好照顾自己。