成立业还是先成家?

Career or Family?
   I used to be radical and thought one could not be a success in career and, at the same time, have a happy family life. Sometimes I even subscounscinusly refused such things as love and marriage.
   Now I think man engages in a career in the hope of having a happy life, except for these "extremely intelligent", who would choose career to the exclusion of family. In fact, their lives are not complete ones they have defects. Most people, including many great men, scientists and merchants, have experienced much the same experiences (of course, with the details varying). They are from birth to carefree childhood to troublesome adolescence, to dating, to work, to love, to marriage, to success in career, then to old age.
   Read while you read. Love while you love. Whatever you do, do it whole-heartedly. Even if one day I become a housewifp, that is nothing to be afraid of. What is important is that, in my heart, I have a deep love for life. I will keep in high spirits. I love. I marry. But I still dream my own dream. I will follow the law of nature and pursuit what is beautiful in life. I will hring myself into full play. Only by so doing, I will not regret anything in life. Do you think so?
事业还是家庭?
   我从前很偏激，以为家庭和事业不可两全，有时甚至下意识地去拒绝恋爱、婚姻之类的事。
   现在我认为，除了那些只要事业不要家庭的“极端聪明”的人，人干事业总是为了有幸福生活。绝大多数人-- 包括许多伟人，科学家、大商人——都有一种大体相同的过程(当然，其具体的细节是千变万化的)：即从出生。到无忧无虑的童年，到充满烦恼的青少年时期，到读书、工作、恋爱、结婚、事业成功，到老年。
   读书时好好读书，恋爱时好好恋爱，该做什么就好好做什么，甚至有一天做家庭妇女也没有什么好害怕的。重要的是自己心中始终有一种对生活的热爱，始终保持积极上进的精神。我恋爱结婚，但我仍然可以追求自己的梦想，遵循自然规律，追求生活中美好的东西，充分发挥自己的力量，那样，才会使一生无怨无悔。你说呢?